Get people to talk about themselves, it's easier than you imagine as long as you use the right questions.Just ask them what they're upto, what's in the pipeline and where they went on holiday. Make up scenario's and ask them their opinion just to get them bleating on about something they like to talk about - they can't resist.The killer line is to ensure that when people tell you something that's pretty significant, either positive or negative, ask them how it made them feel. People cannot resist either pooring their heart out or bragging, it's like a floodgate opening.You sit there and nod, maintaining silence when they stop (because they will continue and you want this), and listening and taking note. This is the easiest way of making a real connection with someone, once they've spilled the beans they'll marvel at your emotional intelligence and will develop positive connections with talking to you.And best of all, it's the best way to get a woman to sleep with you! They'll deny it in the following posts but believe me, I've 'taken many down to China town' with that one....