She's left me. Kind of moved out at the weekend but came back for her stuff last night so I figure it's not like last time. She was bored of me getting home late, working weekends and taking month long engagements here there and everywhere. Fair play really.It's a shame, but it's not the end of the world and it's happened before. And here lies the question.Where can I find a girl who has a similar outlook to me and is happy to have a relationship that is strong without being so prescribed that she feels we need to see each other every bloody night?The Partners in my firm are either divorced, single or on wife two or three. I'd rather just have a solid but understanding relationship.Do these women exist?!

My friend, every consultant, IBer, analyst, etc comes to your point at least twice in his life. I had 4 women leave me for the same reasons ( two were my wives)Then i found the answer. and ive been over the moon ever since - and its been 10 years now. enjoy:http://www.bridesbymail.com/

accenture?!Do people really think like this?How old are you?Does powerpoint give you as much joy and happiness as your ex?

Date another consultant :)Not trying to be funny really... They would understand the travel/working situation and you two could encourage and learn from each other. I've known a few consultants that dated other consultants and it has worked out well. They take turns going to each other's cities on the weekend and some that work for the same company are even able to work on the same projects at times. It has worked out well for them. You have to be very mature and understanding to do this though.

sounds like a great relationship

Make partner. Earn shedloads. Get a gold-digging trophy wife.Everyone's happy.

Start out on your own. Work from home. Gives you a chance to look after the kids.

yes but what happens if you can't find any work??!!! where do you get your work from??! i would need a regular supply of work!!

Marry later, then you've both probably worked it out, and developed some patience in the process :)

You could avoid the problem of divorce completely and - in the words of Rod Stewart -find a woman you don't like and give her all your money.

So what happens if you are a woman in consulting ?Anybody want to be my trophy husband?

I want :)

trophy husband... sure why not.As long as you follow the Rod Stewart way of thinking as mentioned by Ooh.Oh. If you possess a wizard's sleeve, then i reserve the right to call it off.Now please form an orderly queue.

Im good at taking care of kids and cleaning the house :)

They do exist. I am happily married with a girl I have known for 20+ years, of which 15 in consultancy; we have two children, she is not a consultant and does not bear grudges for my frequent and long absences, though she would appreciate it if I could be at home more often. So would I.

oh, wow, another stupid comment here....after the "Stupid indian" infamous thread, I am starting to see how come consultancy is in such a mess sometimes.Truth hurts, but stupidity a lot more. You must be in a hell of a lot of pain, pal...

Bravo Gordon G, bravo.

As a girl I'm facing the same problem. Traveling alot and spending lots of time in the office hasn't left me any time to start any dating again. I think in general life has become so complicated and individuals are spending more time in work. Well in my country with my position and the type of work I have, I'm facing more challenges than you. So be thankful and patient!

I think it is misunderstood by many people that in todays global working environment, everywhere is local, and you can't help travelling! I think that its about time that people got over their obsession and fixation with having to be home every night. Just because you spend nights apart, how does that suddenly spell the end of a relationship, it's just so shallow!Why cant people see that this lifestyle can, if handled correctly, be healthy for the relationship. Being apart gives you time to miss your partner, being with them is exciting and you appreciate every moment. I have friends who say to me 'how can you bare to be apart at night? we couldnt do that!But when they spend their nights together, it's always the same story. They will sit their bored mesmorised by the tv and sometimes dont speak two words to each other. This is because they dont apprieciate each other because they take for granted always being there!I think it very much depends on how strong the relationship is. You can make this lifestyle work for you and build an even stronger and continuously exciting relationship for it, but it is far easier said than done!I totally sympathise with you thread bare. I think it is harder for men to cope with this because alot of women are clingy and demanding. I know this might cause outrage amongst some female readers, but i think most of them will agree.Dont lose faith! As someone previously said, maybe finding a consultant partner wouldn't be such a bad idea after all! But remember, most of the time, us women are more trouble than we are worth!

Very well, Ms. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Do you have kids? Some of us actually want to see our wives and kids in the evenings. If we wanted pen pals, we'd join a writing club. If we wanted phone buddies, we'd call chat lines.There's no substitute for face time when it comes to friends and family. I want my kids to actually recognise me when they're 10 years old. And I can't be physically intimate with my wife if she's in London and I'm in Saudi for 6 months, can I? It's a recipe for disaster.What does this mean, by the way? --> "I think it is misunderstood by many people that in todays global working environment, everywhere is local, and you can't help travelling!"

TTC,the fact that you take the moral high ground against Ms and then describe your important time with your family and friends as "face time" makes you sound like the biggest egotist loser on here. Pardon the belligerent nature of this reply, but that is nothing short of disgusting. Face time? pfffff

First of all, this isn’t a dig. It’s just how I feel about things. If you and your partner are perfectly happy being apart and it doesn’t affect your relationship, then great. It’s a good thing. However….“I think that its about time that people got over their obsession and fixation with having to be home every night.”I’m going out with my girlfriend because I like being with her. And as I am happier when we spend time together I want there to be as much as possible of it. How is that strange? Obviously when I’m away from home things don’t suddenly go down the pan, but as a rule, I would prefer to be more happy than less happy. “But when they spend their nights together, it's always the same story. They will sit their bored mesmorised by the tv and sometimes dont speak two words to each other.”If you can sit in a room with someone and there never be any uncomfortable silences then you know you’re on to a winner. If ever I have to struggle to find things to say, then I know thing’s aren’t going too well…. Just my 2 cents.

Bog off, "Simple". Please don't reply to any of my posts in the future, address me or talk about me in any way. I want to ignore you but sadly these boards don't allow for it.By "face time" I simply meant actually being able to spend time face-to-face with my wife and kids, rather than sending them e-mails or "phoning home" in the evenings. You may not like the phrase itself, but I'm sure you understood what I meant. It was pretty obvious from the context of the post that I genuinely want to spend time with my wife and kids. How dare you suggest otherwise.

Oh Dear Top Consultant!Is that bloody extension of yours still stressing ya out?With respect Simple, i think it was extremely obvious what Top Consultant ment by 'face time', and i think that you insinuated otherwise was very harsh and extremely insulting.It's clear to anyone with half a brain that he was stressing how much he misses his wife and kids and you questioned his compassion towards them. Is it any wonder he reacted badly? With the risk of sounding harsh, i think thats disgraceful!Shame on you!

I think spending time with your family it is the most rewarding and satisfactory activity anyone can ever do. You guys without it will learn this when the time comes. You will remember this thread then...

Quandries eh? Can't live with them, can't consult without them. I always wondered why Paul McCartney was sad when the girl that was driving him mad was going away but that's another thread.

She exists and she is a consultant as well. She is in her early 40's and is quite attractive. Not a trophy wife, or a former wife of Rod's. Kiddie is all grown up and going to Uni soon so she isn't going to get pregnant and bleed you dry for the rest of you life. She lives in West London (near to good transport links to be able to travel easier)